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“I want more clarity”: How to clear the fog in your career journey

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Have you ever felt stuck in your career because you lack “clarity” or direction? 

A lot of us have been there. Matter of fact, a lot of the people I wind up coaching initially express some level of frustration over wanting more career clarity.

And it is frustrating. Because here’s what that leads to:

  • Stagnation and/or procrastination
  • Stress and anxiety
  • Boredom or boreout (yes, that’s a thing and it’s exactly what it sounds like)

But especially that first one. It’s easy to feel kinda lost in the sauce when you start thinking “Where do I go from here?” When you don’t have an answer to that, it’s somewhat natural to just say “…nowhere. Once I figure that out, I’ll get a move on.”

Let’s take a look at that for a minute, though.

Have you ever driven through heavy fog? I have because I lived in SF for a while (freakin’ Karl. Yes, its actual name is Karl the Fog. Look it up). It’s disorienting and a little bit scary. Sometimes, you can’t even see the car in front of you.

Here’s the thing you learn about driving through fog, though. As long as you stand still, you’ll never be able to see what’s around you. The only way to gain clarity about your direction and what’s coming is to move.

Standing still and thinking, reasoning, imagining, strategizing, or whatever is going to do you no good. You kinda just have to hit the gas. Lightly and responsibly, but still.

And as you start to move, the road–and environment in general–starts to reveal itself to you.

Finding clarity in your career journey is a lot like that. You don’t have to wait until the fog *hopefully* lifts. The best way to gain clarity is to start moving. You can even do it–you guessed it–lightly and responsibly.

If you’re struggling with finding clarity in your career and it’s holding you back, remind yourself that you don’t have to hit any home runs, get things perfectly right, or land your dream job. Here’s a couple tips:

One small yet intentional first step will do. Check out someone’s LinkedIn profile to get an understanding of their path (bonus if you actually reach out to them). Attend a networking event in a field you’re somewhat interested in. Follow the blog of someone who’s writing about relevant stuff. Anything to help expand your knowledge and field of view can be helpful. Engage your curiosity!

The pressure of finding and then landing your dream job is a very high bar to clear. It’s possible, but overwhelming enough to stagnate you. Instead, ask yourself: What would be good enough for now?

What’s a simple next step that would provide me with what I need and set me on a pathway towards better things? A solid stepping stone, in other words.

Good enough for now is not only productive and positive, it’s also much more attainable than identifying and landing that “perfect” job.

Moral of the story: If you want more clarity in your career, you have to DO something. It doesn’t come just by thinking about it.

Take a free course, attend a networking event, do some informational interviews, lurk around on LinkedIn.

It may seem scary, but it’s how you learn to see through the fog.

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It’s my group coaching program designed for job seekers. If you’re an educator, leader, or career pivoter, this was built for you.

The Brave Club is a more affordable/accessible coaching option that provides you with community, strategy, accountability, and confidence you can use to more skillfully and successfully navigate the circus that is the job search.

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  • 6 45 minute group sessions focusing on Branding, Resume Development, Job Alignment, and Negotiation
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  • Open office hours for you to get specific answers to your questions

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I had a great experience for someone that has a non traditional job and has not worked in a corporate environment it definitely made me start to think differently in my current role. I feel more confident having the tools to start applying I am not as scared. I highly recommend anyone to join (already have a few friends that are interested). Come in ready to share job search and interview experiences.

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Speaking of small steps, come talk to me! Getting to your next step isn’t always easy. And job searching sucks, especially nowadays.

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Brandon creating a very comfortable environment for me to be honest about my frustration and journey. I felt validated and seen. I also appreciated that we were strategic and tactical. There wasn’t anything “lofty” about our meeting time. There were always take aways, notes, and resources shared.”

Adetola O.

Brandon is a wonderful supporter, provides a space to explore, and asks really thoughtful questions. Invest in yourself! You are worth it, and you will have a great friend to guide you along the way with no judgement.

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Curious About Finding Work-Life Balance?

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Work-life balance. It’s an all-inclusive and sorta all-elusive term. We all want it, but many of us struggle to actually nail down that coveted sweet spot between professional responsibility and personal wellness.

Before getting into finding work-life balance, it makes sense to define it. The Cambridge Dictionary defines work-life balance as “the amount of time you spend doing your job compared with the amount of time you spend with your family and doing things you enjoy.”

A little simplistic for my taste, but hey it’s a start.

I’ve worked and spoken with lots of people who struggled with finding the right balance. And I think it’s almost mythical.

In real life, work-life balance often means different things to different people. Work-life integration might be more appropriate for some people, as their ideal is to mix work with life, simultaneously tending to both the professional and the personal throughout the day. Others may prefer a complete separation between the two, stepping out of one world to parachute into the other.

We each have to define our own sense of balance, and that’s hard. Still, here’s some tips to get you started.

CLARITY COMES WITH ACTION

Maybe you’re not sure what the ideal balance would actually look like for you. If that’s you, you’re not alone. But clarity comes with action. In other words, things start to get a little bit clearer as you begin to move.

Ask yourself this: Are there any things you can change right now that MIGHT lead to you feeling more balance in your life? Make a list of 3-5 things.

That might be a hard question to answer, but the good news is that you don’t have to get it right! The idea is to brainstorm some “low hanging fruit” options that you can try. As you move forward making conscious choices regarding the breakdown of your life and responsibilities, you’ll start to gain insight into what your ideal sense of balance might look like.

MAKE A PLAN AND SHARE IT

If you could structure your week in such a way that allows you to take care of your physical and mental well-being, and still take care of your other responsibilities, what would that look like? Maybe you don’t quite have the agency to make it perfect, but craft an imperfect plan and share it.

Share it with your friends and family so they know what to expect from you. Share it with your supervisor to seek their support in making the plan a reality as much as possible. If sharing it with someone would make bringing the plan to life easier, share it with them. You might not make everything in the plan a reality, but you might get closer to crafting a slightly more balanced life.

ACCEPT THAT THERE’S NO ONE RIGHT ANSWER

What works for others won’t necessarily work for you, and vice versa…

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Quick history lesson! The term work-life balance was coined in the mid 80s during the Women’s Liberation Movement as women fought for the right to maintain their job and still have time to take care of their families.

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4 Helpful Networking Tips For Shy People and Introverts

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Ready for this?

HERE’S A NETWORKING TASK!

Just kidding. But if that made you cringe or feel a little itchy, you might be a reluctant networker.

Lots of people are, especially the shy and/or introverted among us (like me).

If you’re an introvert, you’d probably never do any networking if you didn’t have to. But the truth is, networking is extremely important and useful when it comes to building your career. LinkedIn states that 70% of workers hired in 2016 had a connection at the company they were hired by. CNBC says as much as 80% of all jobs are filled through personal and professional connections.

Pretty significant.

Still, networking can be awkward, even if you aren’t the introverted type. The good news is that networking doesn’t have to be hard.

Read on for some tips to make it more manageable for you.

TIP #1: GET OTHER PEOPLE TALKING

If you’re shy or an introvert, you might prefer it when other people are doing the talking. So get other people talking! Take the night before your networking interaction to come up with a few open-ended questions (no yes-or-no questions homie) that prompt the person/people around you to do some informative storytelling. Make sure the questions you ask are relevant, though. You want to prompt stories that help you learn what you need to know to get you a little closer to your goal(s).

Speaking of goals…

TIP #2: GIVE YOURSELF A SMALL & SPECIFIC GOAL

Something easy to accomplish, but still useful according to your goals. Here’s some examples:

  • Get 5 people’s contact info at the conference you’re attending
  • Invite 5 people per month in your [target] industry to connect on LinkedIn, and then introduce yourself to them
  • Send a quick hello and brief life update to a former mentor you really connected with back in the day

Giving yourself small, easily attainable goals creates easy wins. Shout out dopamine boosts!

TIP #3: DON’T APPLY TOO MUCH PRESSURE

You have to apply some amount of pressure to your goals, of course, but applying too much pressure (on yourself, other people, or your networking interactions) can backfire. For example, the purpose of your networking interactions doesn’t have to be, “Man, I hope this person gets me a job.” That’s a lotta pressure, both on you and the person you’re reaching out to. The bar for success in that scenario is also extremely high–anything less than that person getting you a job is a “failure.” 

Remember, you don’t have to hit home runs. Small, actionable, achievable outcomes that you can control (or at least greatly influence) is the name of the game.

TIP #4: ENLIST HELP

Do you have any non-introverted friends that are connected? If so, ask them to help you by making introductions or breaking the ice! Having someone there with you in the experience can help alleviate some of the anxiety you might be feeling. Lean on the strengths of your good friends and close connections (while remembering to respect their time and energy, of course) to help you navigate and create new professional relationships.

And don’t forget to thank them!

WRAPPING UP

Networking is kinda just awkward. Prepare ahead of time so you can skillfully get others to do the talking. Give yourself small and specific goals. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, the other person, or the interaction. Enlist help when and where appropriate.

Don’t worry. Practice and you’ll master it in time, just like a bunch of other things you’ve mastered.

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