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HERE’S A NETWORKING TASK!
Just kidding. But if that made you cringe or feel a little itchy, you might be a reluctant networker.
Lots of people are, especially the shy and/or introverted among us (like me).
If you’re an introvert, you’d probably never do any networking if you didn’t have to. But the truth is, networking is extremely important and useful when it comes to building your career. LinkedIn states that 70% of workers hired in 2016 had a connection at the company they were hired by. CNBC says as much as 80% of all jobs are filled through personal and professional connections.
Pretty significant.
Still, networking can be awkward, even if you aren’t the introverted type. The good news is that networking doesn’t have to be hard.
Read on for some tips to make it more manageable for you.
TIP #1: GET OTHER PEOPLE TALKING
If you’re shy or an introvert, you might prefer it when other people are doing the talking. So get other people talking! Take the night before your networking interaction to come up with a few open-ended questions (no yes-or-no questions homie) that prompt the person/people around you to do some informative storytelling. Make sure the questions you ask are relevant, though. You want to prompt stories that help you learn what you need to know to get you a little closer to your goal(s).
Speaking of goals…
TIP #2: GIVE YOURSELF A SMALL & SPECIFIC GOAL
Something easy to accomplish, but still useful according to your goals. Here’s some examples:
- Get 5 people’s contact info at the conference you’re attending
- Invite 5 people per month in your [target] industry to connect on LinkedIn, and then introduce yourself to them
- Send a quick hello and brief life update to a former mentor you really connected with back in the day
Giving yourself small, easily attainable goals creates easy wins. Shout out dopamine boosts!
TIP #3: DON’T APPLY TOO MUCH PRESSURE
You have to apply some amount of pressure to your goals, of course, but applying too much pressure (on yourself, other people, or your networking interactions) can backfire. For example, the purpose of your networking interactions doesn’t have to be, “Man, I hope this person gets me a job.” That’s a lotta pressure, both on you and the person you’re reaching out to. The bar for success in that scenario is also extremely high–anything less than that person getting you a job is a “failure.”
Remember, you don’t have to hit home runs. Small, actionable, achievable outcomes that you can control (or at least greatly influence) is the name of the game.
TIP #4: ENLIST HELP
Do you have any non-introverted friends that are connected? If so, ask them to help you by making introductions or breaking the ice! Having someone there with you in the experience can help alleviate some of the anxiety you might be feeling. Lean on the strengths of your good friends and close connections (while remembering to respect their time and energy, of course) to help you navigate and create new professional relationships.
And don’t forget to thank them!
WRAPPING UP
Networking is kinda just awkward. Prepare ahead of time so you can skillfully get others to do the talking. Give yourself small and specific goals. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, the other person, or the interaction. Enlist help when and where appropriate.
Don’t worry. Practice and you’ll master it in time, just like a bunch of other things you’ve mastered.
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